• Know who you are and what you want. Sounds silly, but if you see yourself as an appendage of a company or spouse, you won't have boundaries. We all need to be individuals as well as part of the whole.
• Make what you want and need a priority. Stop putting everyone else ahead of you. Stop substituting approval for happiness. If you see yourself as a servant, you don't have good boundaries. Helping is fine, but don't be a servant.
• Just say no. Don't let others impose on you. Set appropriate boundaries concerning all aspects of your life: your physical body, your time, your expertise. Don't expect others to respect you if you don't respect yourself.
• Live consciously and make conscious choices. Most people live in reactive mode, and their choices are from habit. Most people try to do things to get approval or love, or to be seen in a certain way. This is a sign that they have no self-image or sense of self, and they are looking to others to tell them who they are. Show people who you are by acting in integrity with your values. Know thyself, don't ask others who you are.
• Associate with people who resonate with you. If I had a dollar for everyone I have worked with who is surrounded by parasites and judges, I would be rich. These people are always unhappy. Not only do they have poor boundaries; they have predators in their lives and don't fence them out. If you have a spouse who constantly criticizes you or a boss you cannot please, you need to make a change. If your kids disrespect you no matter what you do for them, it's up to you to make a change. We can't pick our families, but we can set boundaries with them. And we can pick our friends, coworkers and partners. If you surround yourself with positive and successful people, you will resonate with good health yourself. If you can't do that, you probably need professional help from someone like me.

Now redo the visualization from last month, only this time go in and intend to build appropriate boundaries on all the edges of your property. Notice what materials you use and how extreme or how weak the boundaries feel. Do not judge yourself. This is a process, and you can learn what your issues are by watching what you do. If you build small and weak boundaries, especially between yourself and someone who is negative, you are going to have problems. If your boundaries are extreme, then it indicates you have a level of fear that you cannot build safe and appropriate boundaries. These are all things you can work on using whatever method you like best.

Do the visualization regularly until you are happy with your boundaries. Do it weekly if you had no boundaries at the beginning. Do it at least monthly if your boundaries are good. It is especially useful to do the visualization during times of change and transition, as that is when issues pop and things crop up that can cause trouble.

Remember that I am offering $90 sessions through August 18th. Boundary issues are pretty easy to diagnose. And the solutions are usually straightforward. But applying them can be really hard. If you find yourself unable to implement the above, I can help you succeed. Be sure to contact me for a discounted session. I guarantee you will see improvement after the first session! 928-237-1212 or maggiepercy@gmail.com.